Last night I was watching my favourite guilty pleasure programme “I’m a Celebrity – get me out
of here!” in the expectation of some nice, mind-numbing, light entertainment
and was shocked to instead witness two grown women blaming their own body
insecurities on the natural beauty of another woman and her participation (and
success) in a Beauty Pageant.
If that wasn’t shocking
enough, when I looked on the programme’s Facebook and Twitter page I read post
after post from other women who clearly suffered from the same kind of delusion
and were not ashamed to join in and make the Beauty Pageant the scapegoat for
them feeling shit about themselves.
Am I the only one seeing
what’s going on here?
Women and girls of the
world! Get a fucking grip and stop turning on each other!
It’s not Amy Willerton’s
fault that she was born beautiful and she shouldn’t be made to feel bad about
that. At the same time it’s not Rebecca Adlington’s fault that there are idiots
out there who taunted and bullied her in the past. I really respect Rebecca for
showing her vulnerability on public television and I feel for her but I just
cannot agree with such blatant projection of her own inability to love and
accept herself the way she is.
In fact, I’m sick and tired
of the whole blame game. Yes, media and society try really hard at giving women
really shitty messages about themselves and their bodies. Granted, but I don’t
really think that blaming or even banning this will help because the main
reason why so many women aren’t happy with themselves isn’t found outside of
themselves but within.
The society we live in is a
mere reflection and manifestation of what women think and feel about themselves.
I say let’s try and change
it by starting within.
Stop blaming other women,
the media, society or some idiot kid who bullied you at school for feeling shit
about yourself. Take responsibility. Own your feelings of worthlessness, ugliness
or whatever else it is. Work through your pain. Only you can change the way you
feel! Even if you were only surrounded by ‘ugly’ women (whatever you consider
that to be) and society and the media would tell you that you’re okay the way
you are: it wouldn’t change anything as long as you still hold onto these
beliefs of not being enough.
Women and girls of the world,
I beg you, do us all a favour: stop being bitches! Let’s instead support each
other in truly loving and accepting ourselves the way we are. That’s the only
way to change how we feel. Society and the media can’t make us feel anything
unless we allow it and they’ll soon enough stop when we stop buying into it.
